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<br />Be bold and brave. Be accountable. <br /> <br />Work as always! Do I have to do everything??? <br /> <br />APPENDIX <br /> <br /> <br />* A RELATIONSHIP CONFRONTATION/RESOLUTION PROCESS <br /> <br /> <br />The participants have explored the nature of their relationships, and developed the beliefs and behaviors that <br />would foster their desired outcomes. In doing so, they have experienced listening with respect, creating a <br />new and shared knowledge base. They have experienced being trusting, open and honest. <br /> <br />The educators are now asked to experience confronting the conflicts that are unresolved in their relation- <br />ships. They experience a process for resolving relationship conflicts by actually confronting the conflicts <br />between them. <br /> <br />This is the process that was demonstrated and experienced: <br /> <br />STEP 1: The individuals in conflict are asked if they would be willing to confront their issue with the <br />larger group. The process was first explained to them. At this point, the participants readi- <br />ly agree to the experience. <br /> <br />STEP 2. The conflict persons select one - two individuals to listen for them. These people play the <br />role of allowing the persons in conflict to be natural and reactive when speaking to the other <br />about the conflict. They hear the left brain material that is hidden in the right brain and <br />reactive tones of voice. <br /> <br />STEP 3. The first person having the issue with the other begins by expressing the nature of the <br />relationship conflict as she sees it, and describes how she feels about it. <br /> <br />STEP 4. The listener for the other person repeats what she heard the first person say. <br /> <br />STEP 5. The other person responds by providing his reaction to the situation as expressed by the <br />first person, providing his view of the situation, and how it makes him feel. <br /> <br />STEP 6. The listener for the first person expresses what he heard the other say. <br /> <br />STEP 7. There are a number of options here, some, or all, of which can apply: <br /> <br />o The first person reacts and responds to what was said. The listener again repeats <br />what she heard to the other. The other person responds and reacts to the new in- <br />formation. This is repeated by the other listener. This allows each person to clarify <br />information, to get other feelings out, to maybe even be more confrontive now that <br />it feels safe. <br /> <br />o The listeners are asked to state what they feel are the key issues between the par- <br />ties. This provides pro-active information to the protagonists, and helps them <br />process the conflict. <br /> <br />o Other members of the group are asked to state what they heard, how they feel about <br /> <br /> <br />MINUTES—Eugene City Council February 6-7, 2009 Page 16 <br /> Goals Setting Session <br /> <br />